As awesome as that is, what happens when something goes wrong, and they aren’t your match at all?One of the biggest and most common problem that arises is lying.
You answer questions such as your age, height, eye color, interests, marital status, and personal information about yourself.You have expectations of meeting someone just right for you.No biggie, we do that to our weight; what’s a few pounds right?This job title is tricky because there are plenty of successful entrepreneurs searching for love but the term has become the jobless man’s cover.How can someone honestly love you before having met you in person? How can someone want to spend the rest of their life with you when they have known you less than a month? You are using a dating site to protect your privacy and help you avoid scammers.
Don’t fall for whatever their reason is to write to them directly prior to meeting them in person. They don’t answer the questions asked in your emails. Another indication that something problematic is going on is when there is distance between where you both live — and they aren’t advocating a meeting.The “average guy” will kill any attempts at a getting-to-know-you conversation dead in its tracks. If he can’t keep his past relationship grievances to himself (and/or his therapist) while trying to paint himself as datable, you can expect your honeymoon period to last halfway through the main course, if that. It’s because he has extra teeth where teeth don’t belong. When his rundown of what he’s looking for in a woman — Quirky, well-traveled, Buddhist bombshell with long hair must love dogs, watching hockey and hiking! He’s “coming out of a relationship.” He’s “focusing on work.” He “travels a lot.” Listen, he’s not looking for more friends. At best, he’s looking to have sex with someone he vaguely enjoys the company of while he’s putting on his pants and booking it out of her apartment. He’s vegan and he doesn’t care if you eat meat, but three bonus points to vegan girls, LOL? The down-to-earth charm of Natalie Portman, with the bad-girl edge of Megan Fox, and a touch of Reese Witherspoon, you say? You haven’t even been out with him yet and he’s already given you a rundown of all of the music, food, movies, and types of women he hates?When making contact with you, they start by complimenting you on your looks. This is a statement that everyone wishes to hear, but how do you know if it’s real?Wouldn’t we rather be complimented on accomplishments or what our goals are? Charlatans tell you they love you before they have ever actually met you. Some people can sound great on the phone, but when you meet them there is nothing there; or, physically they just don’t meet your standards. The other part of the “I love you” scam is when they will say something like, “Something in me shifted, and I love you,” or, “I think I have found my soul mate.” Again, they have yet to meet you, and there hasn’t been enough time to know you well enough to truly love you in the way you wish to be loved. There is a reason they wish for you to contact them directly and not use e-mail via the dating site.It is almost as if some of their mail is sent automatically, like you are on their list and this is the next standard email that is sent out. When you indicate that you’ll be in their area and would like to get together, they can’t meet you. The pictures posted may or may not be the actual person.