And you get to learn something about the kid who’ll be taking your daughter out—the sports or music he may be into, or even the video games he plays. ) How long has he worked there, and what does he like and dislike about it?Even if your family is not religious, you should know if your daughter’s boyfriend is! Knowing what he does for work and how he views the job can give you real insights into his character and where he’s going in life (if anywhere).
You could consider this the Dear Abby for fathers with daughters. If you're lucky to get in a 'how are you,' and maybe a firm handshake (breaking fingers if possible, cracking knuckles at minimum), that's about all the time your daughter might allow you to interact with her male friend. But it was difficult to read through the list of questions more than once. There is only one response, and that would be, 'sir, I worship the ground your daughter walks on. ' Now what father in his right mind would ask a boy with raging hormones who's dating his daughter about Plumbing? I might show him my staple gun and demonstrate on him how it works if his pants are hanging low enough that I can see the design on his boxer shorts. Okay, one more and then I'll give you my pointers for interaction with your daughter's boyfriend. Listen, when you're interacting with your daughter's boyfriend, the first and most important goal is to instill fear in the young man.
Nearly half a century of lived life is tough to reverse.
If you want to grill your little girl’s date so you can feel better about letting her leave the house, here are the 10 questions you should ask him. By putting him on the spot right from the get-go, you can get a good sense of what he wants with your precious little girl.
At the very least, you’ll get to watch him squirm as he tries to come up with an answer on the fly.
The wise dads relish the opportunity to develop a real, intentional, grace-and-truth relationship with the man who might be tasked with caring for their daughter for the rest of her life.
In the first pages of Scripture, we find that great love story of Isaac and Rebekah.My friend, Dennis Rainey, has written a good book, Interviewing Your Daughter’s Date, which covers this topic in depth.But to give you some quick insights, let me share with you a few key steps from my experience.This also allows you to be the heavy when she wants to say “no” but is struggling to do so. I wrote how I did this for my first interview with my eldest daughter’s date in my original blog on interviewing your daughter’s date. Ask about his family, his work and studies, his life plans, what he enjoys doing, and even his driving record…the kinds of things that will give you clues about his values and character.Don’t be shy…even if it seems a bit uncomfortable for him and for you.I'm not the perfect father, and I'm not a child psychologist. I'd like to think that I will consider opinions that don't necessarily jive with mine. If you're a blathering idiot, then all bets are off. Especially when it comes to my theory on my daughters and boyfriends. Any John Wayne western, any Clint Eastwood "Dirty Harry" show, the Godfather trilogy or Hoosiers.